Real Security

Real Security

Security. What does it really mean to you? Have you ever thought about it? Where does it come from? How do we create it? Or can we truly ever have it?

There are a lot of questions posed by this word that many have never taken the time to think about before. 

Sometimes we go through life grasping for things that make us feel just a little safer or we create defense mechanisms that we think give us security. Is that kind of safety and security actually a ruse? 

This topic was brought up to me recently in terms of what I help people build in the form of a solid foundation within themselves and their businesses. And man, was it a cool moment on seeing another layer to this practice. Continue reading “Real Security”



Are you calculating your own worth based off outside validation?

Before you write this off as “Nope, not me” and keep scrolling… Hear me out because this one can be pretty tricky.

When I say outside validation, I’m referring to a number of things. From approval, acceptance, and praise for your personal work, thoughts, or actions- to feeling whole based off the number of people who are seeking your energy, your advice, or your attention. Continue reading “Validation”

The Well vs. The Sink

The Well vs. The Sink

Do you ever have a moment when listening to or reading something where it’s like a bell goes off in your head that screams “THIS!” 


Maybe it’s something you’ve been thinking about or even talking about behind closed doors for a while but once you hear it from someone else’s mouth you know that the universe put that message in front of you for a reason. Because YOU are meant to speak on it. 

I got that ding 3x in the same day regarding how the reason people aren’t winning is that they’re spending all of their time building a house of cards instead of looking at their foundation. 

All of the work and energy are going to building and keeping up a facade, or “faking it until you make it” so there’s nothing left to put into the foundation. The foundation gets ignored and eventually, the house of cards build on top of it falls down too and then what? 

Well, that entire process fuels self-doubt, anxiety, depression, and mental exhaustion. What if we stopped trying to fake it and started looking at our own shit instead? What if we took building or repairing our foundation FIRST as the number one priority? 

This is something I am SO passionate about. This is why I created the Intentional Living lessons in the first place and THIS is why I’m doing the podcast. Because it’s simply not talked about enough. And those who are talking about it, aren’t giving people sustainable things they can start doing in their own lives to make the change. Or START! 

Which brings me to Episode 3 of my Lifestyle Creation Podcast.

In this episode, we discuss the concept of creating a solid foundation versus a house of cards. 

Real talk, it’s become a really cool thing to “fake it til you make it” these days. In this episode we talk about how using that, as a rule, isn’t the way to live life on your terms. We go into detail about the psychological effect that has not only on your state of mind but your emotions and self-worth as well. Not to mention, how it hinders your ability to be more productive and have less stress and chaos while doing it. 

Check it out and let me know what you think!  




I am beyond grateful for your support in this project. Every listen, rating, comment, share, and like MATTER and I couldn’t be more appreciate for YOU. Thank you so much for the support. 

Much love XX


I Don’t Know About You

I Don’t Know About You

I don’t know about you, but I am no longer in the business of talking people into loving me.

I quit that a long time ago.

I am also no longer in the business of expecting people to love the way I love, respect the way I respect, and honor their word the way I honor mine… this one has been harder to learn but still a “line in the concrete” type of staple these days.

Sometimes though, with some people those old habits still pop up, catch me off guard, and when it does it’s never a rewarding experience for anyone involved. It leads to questioning your own worth, resentment, distrust, and hurt feelings.

So this is my message to whomever needs to hear it tonight, stop pushing people to be a part of your life and stop pushing for an answer or a response on your own timeline.

Be open.
Be compassionate.
Have integrity.
Follow your intuition.
Love with all you have.
But certainly don’t beg people to see it, love it, honor it, or choose it. That’s on them, not you.

Always Believed In Love

Always Believed In Love

I’ve always believed in love. I’ve always loved with everything I’ve got and even when I was in a bad situation or was single, I was always surrounding myself with as much love as possible. It wasn’t always easy but at the end of the day, it was always something I could count on.

Basically what I’m saying is that love has always been super present in my world and for that, I’m extremely grateful because I believe it makes all the difference in the core part of how you show up every day.

I owe that to my Mama. She is and always has been a massive advocate for the fact that at the end of the day, love wins. Her and my Dad are walking talking real-life examples that love truly can and does conquer all… IF you choose to allow it to guide you and be a part of who you are. And for that, I’m extremely grateful because no matter how terrible a situation has gotten in my life, how wrong I was done, how hateful someone was towards me, at the end of the day that love flame inside of me never went out. It always lit the way. It always kept me warm. It kept me moving forward. Continue reading “Always Believed In Love”

Life Has Been Really Loud Lately

Life Has Been Really Loud Lately

The heat kicks on in this house and it’s like you turned on a white noise machine. Chandler hates it because it means he has to turn up the TV to hear his shows, but I actually find it super comforting, especially in the morning before anyone else is awake. It’s like a barrier of sound that muffles everything just a little bit, just enough for me to refocus my thoughts when life gets a little too loud.

And guys, let me tell you life has been really damn loud lately. A lot has been happening that I couldn’t have planned for if I was Merlin himself but as I sit here this morning reflecting back on how life has been transpiring lately and looking to what this week has in store, I can honestly say that through it all, I’ve stayed surprisingly calm. Continue reading “Life Has Been Really Loud Lately”

Value Your Time

Value Your Time

“A lack of planning on your part doesn’t constitute an emergency on mine.”

^This was one of the most valuable lessons I’ve learned over the years.

In my world, everything is intentional. I’m extremely “buttoned up” by nature. That doesn’t mean things are perfect, because they’re not. But it does mean that whatever is on my plate is always being handled and it’s always clear.

That’s always been a natural thing for me. But I used to let other people cause me to panic. Or question that. A lot.
Continue reading “Value Your Time”