Being Vulnerable

Being Vulnerable

Being vulnerable never gets easier, even when it becomes your active way of engaging.

The thing that I find to be most challenging about vulnerability is letting go of the reaction others may have to it.

It can be crushing to be vulnerable, to really put yourself out there with someone only to have them turn away or choose that it’s too much.

But you have to remember two things…
1. You’re not doing this for them. Being vulnerable is a pure act of self love and living in your own truth, no matter what.

2. Someone’s reaction to you has absolutely nothing to do with you and has everything to do with them, their own situation, possibly their own fears, and the filter they choose to see life through.

So, you cannot take it personally.

Instead, you allow yourself to feel whatever feelings come up, honor them, dissect them if needed but then remind yourself how courageous you are and that vulnerability is a super power.

Keep going.
Keep growing.
Those you are meant to be with along the way will cherish the rawness of you, not run from it.

My Family

My Family

While driving home from my overly large family gathering on Christmas Eve I was filled with such joy, such knowing, and such belonging… a very rooted feeling.

I started thinking about our history. About where my gigantic family started and about the amazing humans that really hold it all together.

My Grandmother raised 14 kids. Mainly in the hills of West Virginia in a small coal mining town that you’ve probably never heard of, which is a shame because it is hands down one of the most beautiful places I have ever seen. There’s a reason they say “Almost heaven, West Virginia”. Continue reading “My Family”

The Well vs. The Sink

The Well vs. The Sink

Do you ever have a moment when listening to or reading something where it’s like a bell goes off in your head that screams “THIS!” 

“DO SOMETHING WITH THIS!!”?

Maybe it’s something you’ve been thinking about or even talking about behind closed doors for a while but once you hear it from someone else’s mouth you know that the universe put that message in front of you for a reason. Because YOU are meant to speak on it. 

I got that ding 3x in the same day regarding how the reason people aren’t winning is that they’re spending all of their time building a house of cards instead of looking at their foundation. 

All of the work and energy are going to building and keeping up a facade, or “faking it until you make it” so there’s nothing left to put into the foundation. The foundation gets ignored and eventually, the house of cards build on top of it falls down too and then what? 

Well, that entire process fuels self-doubt, anxiety, depression, and mental exhaustion. What if we stopped trying to fake it and started looking at our own shit instead? What if we took building or repairing our foundation FIRST as the number one priority? 

This is something I am SO passionate about. This is why I created the Intentional Living lessons in the first place and THIS is why I’m doing the podcast. Because it’s simply not talked about enough. And those who are talking about it, aren’t giving people sustainable things they can start doing in their own lives to make the change. Or START! 

Which brings me to Episode 3 of my Lifestyle Creation Podcast.

In this episode, we discuss the concept of creating a solid foundation versus a house of cards. 

Real talk, it’s become a really cool thing to “fake it til you make it” these days. In this episode we talk about how using that, as a rule, isn’t the way to live life on your terms. We go into detail about the psychological effect that has not only on your state of mind but your emotions and self-worth as well. Not to mention, how it hinders your ability to be more productive and have less stress and chaos while doing it. 

Check it out and let me know what you think!  

Itunes: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/lifestyle-creation/id1486644715

Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/66rLjYpB3GNm8dmsN2Y7LB

Podbean: https://lifestylecreation.podbean.com/

I am beyond grateful for your support in this project. Every listen, rating, comment, share, and like MATTER and I couldn’t be more appreciate for YOU. Thank you so much for the support. 

Much love XX

-Jamie

I Don’t Know About You

I Don’t Know About You

I don’t know about you, but I am no longer in the business of talking people into loving me.

I quit that a long time ago.

I am also no longer in the business of expecting people to love the way I love, respect the way I respect, and honor their word the way I honor mine… this one has been harder to learn but still a “line in the concrete” type of staple these days.

Sometimes though, with some people those old habits still pop up, catch me off guard, and when it does it’s never a rewarding experience for anyone involved. It leads to questioning your own worth, resentment, distrust, and hurt feelings.

So this is my message to whomever needs to hear it tonight, stop pushing people to be a part of your life and stop pushing for an answer or a response on your own timeline.

Be open.
Be compassionate.
Have integrity.
Follow your intuition.
Love with all you have.
But certainly don’t beg people to see it, love it, honor it, or choose it. That’s on them, not you.

Universal Energy

Universal Energy

Sometimes, I don’t think I can take one more battle. Not one more blow. Not one more explosion.

I stand there in the aftermath of what can only be described as the comet of universal energy doing what is necessary to take me to the other side of everything, to the pure place I’m meant to reside.

And I stand there with the muffled sound of attacks playing in my ears yet again, pure shock of it all. Dissecting why this was brought to my table in the first place. Feeling a bit numb, yet at the same time… feeling every single feeling in the book.

Intuitive Knowing

Intuitive Knowing

Wow. My life is weird…. and I freaking love it.

So I was just looking at the training schedule for my Incubator course that’s currently running (that 3 month pod group I launched a couple months ago) and seeing how the calls will fit around my moving date as it’s quickly approaching and it just hit me….

3 months ago I knew I was looking for something but I didn’t know what it was. I had recently met a man and went from single to in a seriously amazing soul connected relationship in like 5 minutes because well… that’s how I manifested this shit to happen, ask any of my friends. I wanted to skip the dating games and go right for the real time.

That’s what we’ve done and I couldn’t be happier. But the crazy thing is to think that just a few months ago moving to a different state wasn’t even on my radar… not even a little bit. Until in a single moment I just realized that it’s where I needed to be, where I wanted to be, where my soul had been searching for and that was that. Continue reading “Intuitive Knowing”

Grace

Grace

Grace. It’s a name I always said I would give my daughter, if I ever have one. But lately it’s become something I’ve been giving myself more regularly and in turn realizing that I have been greatly depriving myself of so much joy and space by not doing so sooner.

I’ve discovered that through giving yourself a little grace you allow yourself to truly feel what you need to feel when you need to feel it. Through grace I’ve discovered that pressuring yourself on a tight deadline every single day is the opposite of what creates the flow and alignment we all so desperately seek.

Through practicing grace I’ve discovered that if we choose to not only honor who we are and what we need but also give ourselves the compassion and space necessary to truly blossom into our greatest potential. Continue reading “Grace”