Don’t Assume You Know Shit About Shit

Don’t Assume You Know Shit About Shit

Once upon a time, I made a choice to not talk about my relationship publicly as I was starting to grow my business online and here’s why;

Because I refused to use his name and status in this city as a means to get business.

Yep. I knew that he had hundreds of connections with the business community that could have benefited from my services and expertise and he would have GLADLY made the introductions but I didn’t want to be hired simply because I was “Tony Twist’s Girlfriend”. So, while the fact that we were in a relationship was in no way a secret, I chose not to exploit it because it was very important to me that I built my business and clientele based on MY own reputation and MY own ability. Not to mention that contrary to popular assumptions, I could care less about his hockey history. That’s never been a part of our relationship.

Flash forward 5 years or so and I just heard about someone still claiming that “He funds her life”. Continue reading “Don’t Assume You Know Shit About Shit”

Asking About Someone

Asking About Someone

Before you turn to someone else to ask about a person, think to yourself… have you actually reached out to that individual themselves to ask what you’re wondering about them? Have you asked them for an answer to your question? Have you checked in with them or tried to make plans with them?

Why do people always so quickly assume someone else knows better?

Silence goes both ways. So does contact. Think about that before you assume someone is ignoring you or doesn’t want to be involved in your life anymore. Continue reading “Asking About Someone”

Asking For Help

Asking For Help

I’ve never been really good at asking for help. Even when I’m paying a Coach, it’s not been unheard of for them to have to remind me to reach out when I need an ear.

Sometimes I’m really great at it and sometimes I’m not. It’s something I have to remind myself that it’s okay to do. Because you see, at a young age when I found myself in certain situations I just started handling them myself, keeping it all inside, and manning up like a good little soldier but as I’ve grown and expanded I’ve learned that is not at all how I want to operate. It doesn’t allow me to have the life, freedom, and feelings that I want.

So, I started actively working on that a few years ago and in the process I built up a pretty cool circle of support, people outside of my normal “friends circle”. People who know more than me or had more experience, different experiences or expertise, people who could offer me a non judgmental ear and someone to share triumphs, weaknesses, and all of the in-betweens with. But over the last few months I slowly started to revert back, back to not asking, not confiding in my inner circle and instead I was handling it all in my own head, in my own journal, and unfortunately projecting a lot of it at my partner because well, he was only my support system here. Continue reading “Asking For Help”

Being Vulnerable

Being Vulnerable

It’s okay to let someone take care of you sometimes.

Seems almost silly to even say this out loud, but to all of you crazy independent heretics who are right there with me working daily to take over the world, it’s okay to let someone take care of you now and then.

For my entire adult life I’ve always worked hard to NEVER need anyone. Part of my insane proactive nature is to be super prepared and never need anyone to help me with anything…

This is something I’ve completely flipped and adjusted professionally… Hiring a staff and letting them be there for me is a must and something I’ve always been okay with. BUT in my personal life… Not so much.

I suck at letting anyone see me vulnerable.
Continue reading “Being Vulnerable”

I Have Some News

I Have Some News

“I have some news”.

I started a few conversations that way recently and then immediately realized that statement made it sound like I was about to tell someone I was pregnant…

Which I am not so I quickly had to make that point clear which made it a little awkward for a minute but in true Jamie fashion, I like to keep things interesting. Maybe “I made a decision” was a better approach to the news.

No, that sounded weird too. And that’s when I realized that I was spending entirely too much time worrying about telling people something that was MINE. My news. My decision. My excitement. My next step. My latest adventure. Why was I so worried about how to approach this conversation with other people? The words didn’t matter. Continue reading “I Have Some News”

A Real Date

A Real Date

I was 24 before I was ever taken on a real date.

Like the guy had it planned, picked me up at my house and took me out sort of date.

Yep, 24.

I had my first “official” boyfriend when I was 16, so that’s almost 10 years before meeting someone who was actually a gentleman and planned a date. Continue reading “A Real Date”

Love in All Its Forms

Love in All Its Forms

Once upon a time a little girl named Kathy walked down the street with her sister, she pointed out a house she really loved and said, “One day, I’m going to marry the boy that lives there”.

Several years later she met that boy on the school bus and the rest is history… Continue reading “Love in All Its Forms”