Don’t Pretend

Don’t Pretend

You can be sexy AND smart AND interesting AND sought after without being a chameleon.

I watch so many women mold to what they “think” a guy wants them to be and it kills me that people think this is the way to find happiness.

Ladies— I hate to break it to you but you can’t keep up the charade forever. Eventually, you’ll start being who you really are under the mask and pretend hobbies and fake interests and then your man will look at you like “WHO THE HELL ARE YOU?”
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WHO IS YOUR WORST CRITIC?

WHO IS YOUR WORST CRITIC?

You are your worst critic.

You can work to flip it but it will still creep in. You just can’t let it stop you.

We are all hard on ourselves…it happens… And if you have an entrepreneurial brain, you know it happens daily. We are wired to never be satisfied with what we’ve accomplished. We never feel like it’s “enough”. Being hard on yourself is a double-edged sword. On one hand, it keeps you motivated to prove yourself and everyone around you wrong, but on the other hand, it can also be a huge weight on your shoulders that drags you down (*if you let it).

How do you keep from getting discouraged?
How do you keep from being weighed down?
How do you stay positive and moving forward?
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Transformation

Transformation

“I used to think it was some extravagant thing, but now I realize it’s just your life.”

I was talking with a client earlier this week about how her lifestyle has been shifting. Her perspective has changed and she now looks at life very different than she used to. She made a note that everyone should always work with me for at least six months because she thought she was making breakthroughs before but this is a whole new level.

I explained that it’s like a muscle. Being able to pay attention enough to actually SEE purely is not something you can just turn on like a switch, it’s something you must work at, strengthen everyday, test, flex, grow. Continue reading “Transformation”

Time Alone

Time Alone

The past few years I’ve spent the majority of my time alone.

A lot of it by choice, a lot of it simply because I refuse to “fill” my space just for the sake of filling it.

The past few summers it feels like I’m either spending the weekends traveling, surrounded by people, living the dream and feeling so full or I’m home, by myself, feeling full but also wishing someone was there.

Wishing might not be the right word. But honestly I’m not even sure any of this is going to make sense or even truly get my point across. I’ve been thinking about writing on the topic for a long time but could never find the words to really describe this strange state I find myself in a lot of the time.
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Communication

Communication

Guys… she doesn’t know unless you tell her. That thing you wish she would do or the fact that it makes you sad if she leaves the house and doesn’t kiss you, she doesn’t know. Open up your mouth and tell her. Say the words. Because I promise you, she doesn’t know.

Ladies… He can’t read your mind. He doesn’t know what you want. He doesn’t know that little thing he does makes you want to scream. He doesn’t know that you long for him to come up behind you and wrap his arms around you. Open your mouth and tell him. Tell him what you need, what you want, what you feel like you’re missing.

I speak to people every day who don’t feel fulfilled, who aren’t happy, or think their relationship is missing something, and let me tell you…it is. Continue reading “Communication”

Focus

Focus

Real talk: these past two weeks have been a whirlwind.

One moment it feels like it’s been forever and the next moment it feels like it’s just been a day.

The month of May is typically a very full month for me, so I came into it expecting this but this year, it’s been on a whole new level.

Chaos used to be my normal.
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The Brain…

The Brain…

The brain is an interesting thing. It’s funny how everything is good, You can be kicking ass all day long, accomplishing everything you set out to do, make awesome connections, have a killer work out, make big break through with clients, have a good hair day, eat perfect macros, cross everything off the list. End the day feeling great.

Then you lay down. All noise off. Just you and the sound of the fan and your brain starts racing. It takes you to the one thing you wish you could control right now, but can’t. And even though you’re knocking down every thought its throwing at you with logic, it just keeps coming.

Even after many years of learning how to move past, release, and let go of certain feelings, sometimes…only sometimes my heart floods my head and I can’t turn it off.

Maybe that’s a sign of undiscovered things or unsaid words or maybe, just maybe these feelings weren’t ready to be shipped off so quickly.

I’m not sure yet but I plan on paying close attention until I figure it out.