Someone somewhere once told me that if I wasn’t making 10k months, I wasn’t doing enough.
I was failing.
I was “dabbling”.
I wasn’t really committed.
You might know this already but l speak from experience when I say that a reminder is needed frequently. Stress is possibly the biggest hurdle you’re facing right now and you don’t even realize it… because it’s become so “normal”.
In a world that tries to measure you by how fast you are, stress is almost inevitable… or so it probably seems.
I’m not saying I live a stress-free life because that’s not entirely true but I sure do try. I used to use what I saw as “motivation” to show up like pressure in extreme volume everywhere in my life and move me forward. It took me a while before I realized that that kind of stress wasn’t really suited for anyone. Not anyone who is trying to live in fullness, health, ease, and joy at least.
But damn did I try to do all of it at the same time. Then the good stuff was a direct result of the overbearing stress moments and somewhere along the line, my body started to resent it… insert more stress here.
Stress compromises your immune system. It can also cause sleeplessness, an increased probability of not eating properly, and/or turning to vices more frequently for an “out”.
All of which also can affect your body’s ability to fight off illness.
Please keep that in mind when you choose something over that mindfulness practice that you know should be a priority.
Please keep this in mind the next time you choose junk or no food over something that you know is nourishing.
Please keep this in mind the next time you choose anything oversleep repeatedly.
Being aware is a great tool.
Being prepared is also a valuable use of your energy, but panic and stress ultimately will add to the problem. Preparation is key to preventing more stress and panic.
Not sure how to do that? Or even where to get started?
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Small shifts to reduce stress are what we’re looking for.
About 4 years ago I realized that this was not the way. Busy as a badge of honor is one of the most ass-backwards things you could do.
Here’s the deal. I’m an over-worker by nature. I have to actively keep myself balanced or I will work unnecessarily long hours and everything else in my life will suffer.
I lived on that cycle for most of my life, I get it. You probably don’t know how else to be. Or you hear me talk about living life on your terms, having time for everything you actually need and WANT to do, and replacing the chaos with calm and think.. “Ya, cool story bro. That’s not possible in my life Jamie.”
I get it, you think I couldn’t possibly help you, with everything that’s on your plate, everything you want to accomplish, everything you’re striving for but in some areas keep missing. All of the busy and chaos and hustle grind in your life is super necessary and there is no other way. Ya, so do most of my clients until they finally quit fighting their own lives and choose to take a step in the other direction.
That’s my purpose.
When your team becomes your family.
It’s been such an interesting ride in building a virtual business these past 6 years. I remember when the thought of working with a coach or subcontractor that I’d never met before felt so foreign, or temporary.
Looking back I realize that due to the way I originally learned that business was “supposed” to be, that is where those beliefs came from.
“Good help is hard to find”
“Finding someone who is reliable is almost impossible”
“Sometimes you just need to find a warm body to fill the chair”
These are all things that I’m sure we’ve all heard a time or two when working in a management position or owning a business. These are things that we believe to be true because, well that’s what everyone says is true. Continue reading “Delegation”
“You can love her with everything you have and she still won’t belong to you. She will run wild with you, beside you with every step but let me tell you something about women who run with wolves, their fierce hearts don’t settle between walls and their instinct is stronger than upbringing. Love her wild or leave her there.”
I was recently told that photos like this probably “turns other women off” from wanting to work with me or learn from me or join forces with me in any way…
And I get that. Trust me, I do.
But at the same time, that’s the opposite of my purpose for the way I show up. I show up this way, being extremely true to everything I stand for and believe in AND everything thing that I am as a woman and an individual in hopes that people see a light into the opportunity to do the same.
My hope is that it’s seen as power and respected because truly, that is the point.
Mastering others is strength, mastering yourself is true power.
I learned a few years ago that the moment I stopped trying to “force” anything with anyone else and focused on mastering myself and only myself that everything… shifted.
And I mean, everything.
Too many people go put themselves through slow torture their entire lives by being overly concerned with what others are doing, saying, or being. It’s not your job to master them. That’s their job. And I promise you that you’re not doing ANYONE a favor by putting that much time into “trying” to “help someone”. Continue reading “Break Yourself Free”
I was having a conversation with a client yesterday that said “I wish people would realize that investing in a coach doesn’t really cost you $2k a month, it makes you so more than that $2k. So it’s never like you’re ‘losing’ money or out another expense” and while I appreciate that sentiment and that absolute CAN be the case I had to remind her that unfortunately, that’s not always every person’s experience. Continue reading “Show Up and Trust The Process”
This girl had no idea what the “idea” she was toying with at that time could turn out to be.
Being whisked away to South Beach, staying in fancy hotels, having people wait on us at the beach, buying custom made hand-beaded dresses for fancy events, sitting poolside at one of the most expensive properties in Miami, eating amazing food every second possible.
I remember feeling like it was all surreal. Awesome, but surreal.
People who want a solution will find one.
People who don’t will either keep complaining or ignore you completely when you try to help.
You can throw someone a million solutions or pieces of help and if they aren’t really looking for it or aren’t ready, it won’t matter. It will be instantly followed by a bunch of excuses to match.
That’s okay. Everyone comes to things in their own time.
You have to stop taking that on as YOUR responsibility.
No matter how hard you try, until someone is ready, they won’t hear you and instead you’re breaking yourself down and exhausting your efforts in the meantime. Continue reading “Solutions”
What if you were just open to ANY and ALL possibilities in ALL areas of your life?
Well, that one got me good because I could have sworn that I was in fact THAT open.
I believed that I was no longer trying to force the Universe’s hand into only delivering to me in the way that I had lined out and that was it.
The truth is, I have done that in so many ways and in so many places and that has been completely life-changing over the past couple of years. Surrender, remember?
I told you about it. I explained how it works. And how hard it can be. And I got really good at it.
Continue reading “Surrender”