People who want a solution will find one.
People who don’t will either keep complaining or ignore you completely when you try to help.
You can throw someone a million solutions or pieces of help and if they aren’t really looking for it or aren’t ready, it won’t matter. It will be instantly followed by a bunch of excuses to match.
That’s okay. Everyone comes to things in their own time.
You have to stop taking that on as YOUR responsibility.
No matter how hard you try, until someone is ready, they won’t hear you and instead you’re breaking yourself down and exhausting your efforts in the meantime. Continue reading “Solutions”
I haven’t lifted in well over a year.
I’m extremely grateful for my foundation, for what I had built in this body. It’s held strong through over 18 months of deep healing and today when I stepped back into the gym, I was pleasantly surprised by how strong this body still is… even after a very long break.
I’m in awe. And honestly, I had been avoiding this like whoa. After 10 minutes, that old excitement and joy came flowing back over me.
Continue reading “Foundation”
Ladies, I stopped using the word “period” to describe my monthly cycle and you should too.
Did you know that period is short for what doctors would describe as a “periodic illness”?
Yes, you read that right.
Our monthly cycle, something so natural, something that quite literally creates life was referred to as a periodic ILLNESS by medical professionals, thus leading to us calling this natural thing we do, “our period”.
Say what?! Continue reading “Bleeding”
“If I wouldn’t have hired you when I did, I probably wouldn’t still be alive”.
I will never forget the feeling of hearing that statement from one of my clients. It knocked me back in my seat. I remember crying when we got off the phone because of the impact he made on me during that conversation.
I didn’t know he was close to giving up on living when we started our work together.
I knew he had goals, he needed structure and we had a lot of mindset work to do, but I didn’t know suicidal thoughts were at play. During the first few months of working with a new client, we spend a lot of time going deep, like really deep into the dark shadows of self. We uncover fears and limiting patterns, unhealthy habits and space that needs room to breathe. Sometimes those are just around performance, professional growth, communication, self-worth, rebelling against structure, lacking a plan, etc. Continue reading “Impact”
I often hear from people about how they have a hard time staying motivated, or consistent, or moving forward versus moving around and around in circles.
And I have many questions to get to the bottom of why that keeps happening, instead of what most expect which is for me just to throw a pre-written plan at them and tell them to just use that.
You see, cookie-cutter responses have never worked for me and it’s been my experience that they don’t really work for other people either. But most will just keep accepting that type of advice over and over, continuing to feel like they’re not making real progress (not long-lasting at least) and wondering what must be wrong with them because none of these things are working.
Continue reading “You’ve Got To Find What Makes You Tick”
There’s a piece of my reality that I rarely talk about fully, up until recently that is.
It’s something I’ve lived with, learned to navigate, and have had to focus on daily for 20 years. It’s also something that makes me who I am. It’s something I know I’m not an island about. It’s something that most people can relate to but never want to say anything because we feel like we’re complaining or making excuses. When in reality, we’re just talking about what is OUR actual existence.
Continue reading “My Life Sentence”
Unplug… I used to say “disconnect” but let’s be real… Disconnect? How NOT nourishing does that sound?!
The whole point of the act of turning everything off is to refill my cup, to rejuvenate, to reconnect with myself, my voice, my body, my soul. And how can you do that if you’re labeling the experience something so cold in the first place?
No wonder it was never working… And I had been trying the “disconnect” method for MONTHS with no change… So, disconnect went out the door and UNPLUG came in. Continue reading “Unplug”
Are you one of those people who only gets certain things for certain stores?
Because I am.
I frequent Trader Joe’s and Aldi more than anything BUT neither of them have the oats I like so I go to Dierbergs for those and for fage yogurt because I’m obsessed. AND Annie’s Burritos because also obsessed. (OH, and the local produce stand because they’re unbeatable on produce. Plus it’s the cutest place ever and makes me so happy!) Then there are items that I refuse to purchase anywhere besides Sam’s Club because the price point is just too good to pass up. I mean, I can get a massive bag of coffee beans at Sam’s for roughly the same price as a small, off brand bag at a regular grocery store and I just am not about that life.
I think we all have our things. Things we like from certain places for certain reasons. Continue reading “Intentional Shopping”
My skin. What I at one time proclaimed to be my worst enemy is now something I’m really working on loving.
It sounds like something easy to do, a switch you can flip but it’s proven to be a lot more challenging than I expected.
You see, I realized that I was being incredibly unfair to myself. The voice in my head had a very strong opinion that there was some thing wrong with my skin and it had to be fixed. Continue reading “My Skin”