I was having a conversation with a client yesterday that said “I wish people would realize that investing in a coach doesn’t really cost you $2k a month, it makes you so more than that $2k. So it’s never like you’re ‘losing’ money or out another expense” and while I appreciate that sentiment and that absolute CAN be the case I had to remind her that unfortunately, that’s not always every person’s experience. Continue reading “Show Up and Trust The Process”
How did you get so good at writing?
How did you start your business?
How did you gain muscle?
How did you create an audience?
How did you start making money online?
How did you get organized?
How did you clear up your skin?
How did you create inner peace finally?
How did you deal with that loss?
How did you prepare for that growth?
How do you know so much about mindset and money and magick and planning and marketing and and and and….
“If you go into every day ‘waging war’ then war and struggle is exactly what you will get. It will always be hard.”
I was given this advice several years ago by a friend over lunch and it has proven to be one of the most impactful statements anyone has ever made to me…
Unplug… I used to say “disconnect” but let’s be real… Disconnect? How NOT nourishing does that sound?!
The whole point of the act of turning everything off is to refill my cup, to rejuvenate, to reconnect with myself, my voice, my body, my soul. And how can you do that if you’re labeling the experience something so cold in the first place?
No wonder it was never working… And I had been trying the “disconnect” method for MONTHS with no change… So, disconnect went out the door and UNPLUG came in. Continue reading “Unplug”
About a year ago I started thinking about starting a podcast. I had been told for a while that it was the next step to get my message out there and my audience was consistently asking for it, so why wasn’t I making it happen?
I did the research. I found out the best path and places to publish. I listened to a lot of other examples and pulled things that I liked and made notes of what was important to me as a listener.
I had an idea. I had the rules I wanted to work by. But I still continued to sit on it for a quite a while. Why?
Partially because it wasn’t the right time in my life. Things were moving, hell… I was moving x2 in less than 6 months. The other side of it was I wasn’t ready to go all in. Continue reading “What took so long? (Podcast story…)”
Security. For a lot of my life it was something I felt I desperately wanted someone else to provide but was always something I was left without every time.
So I shifted. I created patterns and habits to prevent myself from feeling that disappointment or fear. I built walls and towers to stay just far enough away that people didn’t get too close.
I would call before they had the chance to not choose me. I would make the date before anyone had to opportunity to forget or not make it a priority. I would “check in” to try and feel like I was helping but what I was really doing was fulfilling something within myself that needed to feel wanted. A desire that given the previously described habits, I never actually let anyone show up and fulfill for me in the first place. Continue reading “Security”
I’ve never been really good at asking for help. Even when I’m paying a Coach, it’s not been unheard of for them to have to remind me to reach out when I need an ear.
Sometimes I’m really great at it and sometimes I’m not. It’s something I have to remind myself that it’s okay to do. Because you see, at a young age when I found myself in certain situations I just started handling them myself, keeping it all inside, and manning up like a good little soldier but as I’ve grown and expanded I’ve learned that is not at all how I want to operate. It doesn’t allow me to have the life, freedom, and feelings that I want.
So, I started actively working on that a few years ago and in the process I built up a pretty cool circle of support, people outside of my normal “friends circle”. People who know more than me or had more experience, different experiences or expertise, people who could offer me a non judgmental ear and someone to share triumphs, weaknesses, and all of the in-betweens with. But over the last few months I slowly started to revert back, back to not asking, not confiding in my inner circle and instead I was handling it all in my own head, in my own journal, and unfortunately projecting a lot of it at my partner because well, he was only my support system here. Continue reading “Asking For Help”
Sometimes I wonder if you’ve ever done to her what you did to me.
When the doors are shut and there’s no one around and you have no one else to take your anger out on. Do you turn to her like you did to me?
Then I think, if you haven’t…when will you?
I mean, it’s only a matter of time isn’t it? Continue reading “Be The Change”