About 4 years ago I realized that this was not the way. Busy as a badge of honor is one of the most ass-backwards things you could do.
Here’s the deal. I’m an over-worker by nature. I have to actively keep myself balanced or I will work unnecessarily long hours and everything else in my life will suffer.
I lived on that cycle for most of my life, I get it. You probably don’t know how else to be. Or you hear me talk about living life on your terms, having time for everything you actually need and WANT to do, and replacing the chaos with calm and think.. “Ya, cool story bro. That’s not possible in my life Jamie.”
I get it, you think I couldn’t possibly help you, with everything that’s on your plate, everything you want to accomplish, everything you’re striving for but in some areas keep missing. All of the busy and chaos and hustle grind in your life is super necessary and there is no other way. Ya, so do most of my clients until they finally quit fighting their own lives and choose to take a step in the other direction.
More and more frequently I’ve found myself in conversations with various people from all different walks of life about things they’re noticing make them feel overly drained or zoned out.
One of my friends said “I always feel like I’m more dumb and a zombie after scrolling”.
I went on to explain to her how normal that actually is (these days at least) and how it’s actually a massive exchange of energy that’s happening that we’re really not recognizing, therefore not making different choices OR giving that action the space it deserves without draining the life out of you.
It’s been such an interesting ride in building a virtual business these past 6 years. I remember when the thought of working with a coach or subcontractor that I’d never met before felt so foreign, or temporary.
Looking back I realize that due to the way I originally learned that business was “supposed” to be, that is where those beliefs came from.
“Good help is hard to find”
“Finding someone who is reliable is almost impossible”
“Sometimes you just need to find a warm body to fill the chair”
These are all things that I’m sure we’ve all heard a time or two when working in a management position or owning a business. These are things that we believe to be true because, well that’s what everyone says is true. Continue reading “Delegation”→
This topic was brought up to me recently in terms of what I help people build in the form of a solid foundation within themselves and their businesses. And man, was it a cool moment on seeing another layer to this practice.Continue reading “Real Security”→
This girl had no idea what the “idea” she was toying with at that time could turn out to be.
Being whisked away to South Beach, staying in fancy hotels, having people wait on us at the beach, buying custom made hand-beaded dresses for fancy events, sitting poolside at one of the most expensive properties in Miami, eating amazing food every second possible.
I remember feeling like it was all surreal. Awesome, but surreal.
We all seem to want more of something… but maybe it feels like an empty desire. One that’s fun to say but doesn’t seem at all like it could ever be a reality. OR maybe it feels sad or discouraging because nothing ever seems to work out right.
There’s never enough money or time or progress… What if I told you that you could flip that narrative and start actually getting more?
I’ve noticed that I tend to write things a few days later than most. I used to think that meant I wasn’t planning ahead enough or once I missed the “day” then it would be stupid to post about the holiday or event. (Big Reflection–Dive In with me below)
The truth is, I don’t write about them before because I haven’t experienced them yet. I don’t know how I’ll feel or how it will go until it’s actually happened.
Also, I’m pleased to realize that it’s also because I’m actually freaking present during holidays and events or hangouts so typing about it doesn’t even cross my mind. Not even the morning of or evening after usually either. And that is something I’m super grateful for.
Have you ever wondered how a journal can be so valuable? How a pen and paper can be something that some put on such a high pedestal that it is proclaimed as one of their most valuable tools?
Let’s flash back in time… this method has been being used by brilliant minds for as long as humans have been able to write. Documenting your thoughts, writing out your feelings, discovering new things about yourself or something you’re pondering by writing it down has provided us some of the best pieces of literature or education we have.
It can all start with a journal.
One of the most popular questions I’m asked is how to properly journal in a way that helps you.
Everyone says they don’t know what to write or feel silly so I decided to create not only a guide to why journaling works and how you can remove all of the stigmas around how it’s “supposed” to work so it can work for you but I also created a guide of prompts that you can download and use to help you when you’re feeling stuck.
The guide is provided in audio form, linked below. In the episode I break down what journaling really is, things to know, how to make time for it, and how you can make it best work for you. I also created a free downloadable list of ideas for you to use to start your own journaling journey.