When did it become so normal to apologize for our success? Frankly, we apologize for entirely too much. So much so that the value of the words “I’m sorry” doesn’t really hold much merit in a lot of situations.
When did “I’m not available at that time, I’m sorry” become the way we all auto respond to things that don’t fit specifically into someone else’s request?
Whelp- It’s all very ass backwards if you ask me and it’s time it starts to shift.
You might know this already but l speak from experience when I say that a reminder is needed frequently. Stress is possibly the biggest hurdle you’re facing right now and you don’t even realize it… because it’s become so “normal”.
In a world that tries to measure you by how fast you are, stress is almost inevitable… or so it probably seems.
I’m not saying I live a stress-free life because that’s not entirely true but I sure do try. I used to use what I saw as “motivation” to show up like pressure in extreme volume everywhere in my life and move me forward. It took me a while before I realized that that kind of stress wasn’t really suited for anyone. Not anyone who is trying to live in fullness, health, ease, and joy at least.
But damn did I try to do all of it at the same time. Then the good stuff was a direct result of the overbearing stress moments and somewhere along the line, my body started to resent it… insert more stress here.
Stress compromises your immune system. It can also cause sleeplessness, an increased probability of not eating properly, and/or turning to vices more frequently for an “out”.
All of which also can affect your body’s ability to fight off illness.
Please keep that in mind when you choose something over that mindfulness practice that you know should be a priority.
Please keep this in mind the next time you choose junk or no food over something that you know is nourishing.
Please keep this in mind the next time you choose anything oversleep repeatedly.
Being aware is a great tool.
Being prepared is also a valuable use of your energy, but panic and stress ultimately will add to the problem. Preparation is key to preventing more stress and panic.
Not sure how to do that? Or even where to get started?
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Small shifts to reduce stress are what we’re looking for.
About 4 years ago I realized that this was not the way. Busy as a badge of honor is one of the most ass-backwards things you could do.
Here’s the deal. I’m an over-worker by nature. I have to actively keep myself balanced or I will work unnecessarily long hours and everything else in my life will suffer.
I lived on that cycle for most of my life, I get it. You probably don’t know how else to be. Or you hear me talk about living life on your terms, having time for everything you actually need and WANT to do, and replacing the chaos with calm and think.. “Ya, cool story bro. That’s not possible in my life Jamie.”
I get it, you think I couldn’t possibly help you, with everything that’s on your plate, everything you want to accomplish, everything you’re striving for but in some areas keep missing. All of the busy and chaos and hustle grind in your life is super necessary and there is no other way. Ya, so do most of my clients until they finally quit fighting their own lives and choose to take a step in the other direction.
That’s my purpose.
Last week I found myself sitting in a quiet room housed within a building that was created in 1875 alongside the river in a small town that feels like it had to be here when America first started.
I knew I had a deadline that I was already past to deliver the latest podcast episode and then it dawned on me that I did not bring my ‘podcast notebook’ with me.
Shit. Now what?
More and more frequently I’ve found myself in conversations with various people from all different walks of life about things they’re noticing make them feel overly drained or zoned out.
One of my friends said “I always feel like I’m more dumb and a zombie after scrolling”.
I went on to explain to her how normal that actually is (these days at least) and how it’s actually a massive exchange of energy that’s happening that we’re really not recognizing, therefore not making different choices OR giving that action the space it deserves without draining the life out of you.
I’m a car girl.
Always have been.
I like them all. Trucks, Jeeps, cars, motorcycles. I like them lifted and/or loud. I like them unique and fun.
When someone asks me what my dream car is, I answer with a list. Ha! (Can you relate?)
I don’t have just one. I’m not good at picking just one favorite of anything really. I like to enjoy too many things for that kind of shit.
Some of my earliest memories are of me standing around a truck or motorcycle with my Dad and his friends. That’s something I’m just comfortable with. It was no surprise to my people that I went into the automotive business and stayed there the way that I did. It just fit. Continue reading “Car Girl”
When your team becomes your family. 
It’s been such an interesting ride in building a virtual business these past 6 years. I remember when the thought of working with a coach or subcontractor that I’d never met before felt so foreign, or temporary.
Looking back I realize that due to the way I originally learned that business was “supposed” to be, that is where those beliefs came from.
“Good help is hard to find”
“Finding someone who is reliable is almost impossible”
“Sometimes you just need to find a warm body to fill the chair”
These are all things that I’m sure we’ve all heard a time or two when working in a management position or owning a business. These are things that we believe to be true because, well that’s what everyone says is true. Continue reading “Delegation”
“You can love her with everything you have and she still won’t belong to you. She will run wild with you, beside you with every step but let me tell you something about women who run with wolves, their fierce hearts don’t settle between walls and their instinct is stronger than upbringing. Love her wild or leave her there.”
-Nikki Rowe
I was recently told that photos like this probably “turns other women off” from wanting to work with me or learn from me or join forces with me in any way…
And I get that. Trust me, I do.
But at the same time, that’s the opposite of my purpose for the way I show up. I show up this way, being extremely true to everything I stand for and believe in AND everything thing that I am as a woman and an individual in hopes that people see a light into the opportunity to do the same.
My hope is that it’s seen as power and respected because truly, that is the point.
Security. What does it really mean to you? Have you ever thought about it? Where does it come from? How do we create it? Or can we truly ever have it?
There are a lot of questions posed by this word that many have never taken the time to think about before.
Sometimes we go through life grasping for things that make us feel just a little safer or we create defense mechanisms that we think give us security. Is that kind of safety and security actually a ruse?
This topic was brought up to me recently in terms of what I help people build in the form of a solid foundation within themselves and their businesses. And man, was it a cool moment on seeing another layer to this practice. Continue reading “Real Security”
Mastering others is strength, mastering yourself is true power.
-Lao Tzo
I learned a few years ago that the moment I stopped trying to “force” anything with anyone else and focused on mastering myself and only myself that everything… shifted.
And I mean, everything.
Too many people go put themselves through slow torture their entire lives by being overly concerned with what others are doing, saying, or being. It’s not your job to master them. That’s their job. And I promise you that you’re not doing ANYONE a favor by putting that much time into “trying” to “help someone”. Continue reading “Break Yourself Free”
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