Don’t Pretend

Don’t Pretend

You can be sexy AND smart AND interesting AND sought after without being a chameleon.

I watch so many women mold to what they “think” a guy wants them to be and it kills me that people think this is the way to find happiness.

Ladies— I hate to break it to you but you can’t keep up the charade forever. Eventually, you’ll start being who you really are under the mask and pretend hobbies and fake interests and then your man will look at you like “WHO THE HELL ARE YOU?”
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Self-Awareness

Self-Awareness

Listen, some days are going to be… trying to say the least.

Some days you’ll have a constant conversation with yourself in your head about what is a story and what is the truth.

Because your mind will try to play tricks on you. It will bring up any old past shit that it thinks “might” explain a situation in order to try and “protect” you but it’s up to you to be self-aware enough to look that shit in the face and decipher if its fact or fiction.

Sometimes those subconscious things really are legit and a great device to point out things that need your attention… But sometimes they are totally off. In fact, a lot of times they are based on things that have nothing at all to do with the current situation and are 100% a fabricated story inside of your head.

So what happens if you believe that story? Continue reading “Self-Awareness”

WHO IS YOUR WORST CRITIC?

WHO IS YOUR WORST CRITIC?

You are your worst critic.

You can work to flip it but it will still creep in. You just can’t let it stop you.

We are all hard on ourselves…it happens… And if you have an entrepreneurial brain, you know it happens daily. We are wired to never be satisfied with what we’ve accomplished. We never feel like it’s “enough”. Being hard on yourself is a double-edged sword. On one hand, it keeps you motivated to prove yourself and everyone around you wrong, but on the other hand, it can also be a huge weight on your shoulders that drags you down (*if you let it).

How do you keep from getting discouraged?
How do you keep from being weighed down?
How do you stay positive and moving forward?
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Trust Yourself

Trust Yourself

What if you focused more on trusting yourself than looking around for answers?

What you need to know is inside you. It always is. But we tend to spend all of our time looking to other people for answers instead.

Why? Because trusting yourself is scary.

Perhaps it is because when you seek the answers from someone else and they turn out to be wrong, you have someone else to blame than yourself.

That feels better, right? To blame someone else? Continue reading “Trust Yourself”

Why Struggle If You Don’t Have To Struggle?

Why Struggle If You Don’t Have To Struggle?

I had a client come to me about 6 months ago looking for some balance. She wasn’t happy with the way her life was running. She was running her own business but didn’t feel like it was enough and in turn, the rest of her life was suffering as well.

Her mindset was off. She thought she was barely getting by. She had convinced herself that she didn’t have enough time or money to join a gym, that there was no way she could carve out any more time to spend with her kids, and that this chaos she was experiencing had to be the only way to have “all of this”.

(That’s the funny part…we kill ourselves to be “successful” but aren’t happy…so really, what’s the point?)

She also had this burning idea of how she could help other professionals in her industry to create more income through teaching them what she had done in her business…she just had no idea how to actually make that happen, so she came to me wanting help with it all. Continue reading “Why Struggle If You Don’t Have To Struggle?”

All About You

All About You

We all want someone to be “all about us”, right?

To think we’re great. Watch our stories, read our posts, like our photos, watch our videos, and then talk to us in the background…you know in real life… and actually CARE what is happening in our worlds, in our minds, in our hearts. We want someone to pay attention. We want someone to want to be a part of our world.

And we want them to be up front about it, to tell us that they are into us. To tell us that they think we are marvelous. To never leave us guessing or assuming because they are just so damn clear with us about their feelings and intentions.
That’s basically the idea, right?

But then when we feel that way about someone else…we don’t tell them. We’re not clear. We give mixed signals. We stop liking their posts. We try to wait a certain number of minutes to respond to their messages or watch their story for fear of looking “too eager” or “too interested”.

Please stop and think about that for a minute. Continue reading “All About You”

What If You Just Did It Anyway?

What If You Just Did It Anyway?

So many people ask me how I get motivated to write, or go to the gym, or do my work even though I really don’t have anyone to answer to but myself.

And the answer is, I’m not always motivated.

I don’t always want to.

It’s not always convenient or exciting.

But I do it anyway.

Honestly, I don’t even allow myself another option anymore. Continue reading “What If You Just Did It Anyway?”