Be Willing To Bite

Be Willing To Bite

I pull a card from my beautiful friend Jayme Hanna’s deck and this was the message for me.

Be willing to bite.

As I drove home I pondered all of the ways that statement of encouragement rang true in my world right now.

Several days later, the thoughts are still lingering (that’s when you know the message was really meant for you, when it sticks around for a long while).
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My Skin

My Skin

My skin. What I at one time proclaimed to be my worst enemy is now something I’m really working on loving.

It sounds like something easy to do, a switch you can flip but it’s proven to be a lot more challenging than I expected.

You see, I realized that I was being incredibly unfair to myself. The voice in my head had a very strong opinion that there was some thing wrong with my skin and it had to be fixed. Continue reading “My Skin”

Being Multifaceted

Being Multifaceted

Contrary to what you may be limiting yourself to believe about your own capabilities, just because you’re “great” at one thing doesn’t mean that you can’t be great at several things.

Personally, I am extremely multifaceted. I’m not saying that to be boastful, I’m just stating what I know to be a fact. I acknowledge the things that I am extremely good at, even if they don’t make sense to you. Even if they are not in what your business book tells you make sense for one person to excel at. And I also equally acknowledge the things that are not my forte.

A couple day ago I was greeted with a super fun conclusion made by someone that because I am skilled in one area that means I’m not qualified in another OR “shouldn’t be doing that” and I honestly laughed so hard. It’s astonishing to me how people put things into so many boxes so quickly.
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Actively Changing Hearts & Minds

Actively Changing Hearts & Minds

A woman who is actively changing hearts and minds.

That sounds much better than “influencer” if you ask me.

When I first was put in a position to be able to be heard, I took it seriously. When I first realized that I could teach and help people learn a position or approach something differently, I took it seriously.

It all started in other peoples businesses. It started with training people for support positions, creating processes that served the organization as a whole and then empowering people to take responsibility for their own actions and the roles they were playing. Continue reading “Actively Changing Hearts & Minds”

One Of The Best Gifts I’ve Been Given

One Of The Best Gifts I’ve Been Given

Permission to exhale in the most non-elegant or “abnormal” fashion when breathing into my body has proven to be one of the best gifts I’ve been given.

You listen to guided meditations and watch your yoga instructor or favorite guide and they look so exquisite with slow controlled exhales, that’s all you are taught to do. That’s what you try to mimic in your own practice, never knowing that there might actually be another way, a more helpful way to release.

I think there is a definite time and place for slow controlled exhales, I still use that technique all the time, several times a day in order to reset my thinking, lessen my pain, or calm my nerves or feelings or emotions. Continue reading “One Of The Best Gifts I’ve Been Given”

You’re Allowed to Feel

You’re Allowed to Feel

She came to me looking for a way to find herself again… perhaps actually find herself for the first time, really.

You see, she was recently retired, her kids were grown and without raising kids and being a boss in her industry she wasn’t really sure what was left for her. Searching for a purpose, we started.

Now the path we went down was deep and personal so I’m not going to share the details BUT I do want to share a moment that stands out to me the most about our work together.

I remember so clearly the day this happened. We had a few weeks of sessions that were really deep, diving into things that have happened and her feelings around it. During those conversations, I worked hard to remind her that she is allowed to have her opinion, allowed to feel the way she did, and it was not right for ANYONE to ever tell her she was wrong for that. Continue reading “You’re Allowed to Feel”

Put The Sword Down

Put The Sword Down

PUT THE SWORD DOWN.

Just because you know how to fight doesn’t mean you have to.

I’ve spent a lot of my life “fighting” to get to the next thing. Fighting to get recognition. Fighting to figure out what is wrong with my body. Fighting to get respect. Fighting to be seen. Fighting to be heard. Fighting to move out of and past old patterns and situations.

About a year ago, I stopped fighting.

I actually thought I had quit battling a long time before that point but in a moment where things had quite literally gone up in flames around me, I was reminded by a friend, “It’s only a battle if you choose for it to be” and in that moment I realized that while yes, I had stopped battling in most capacities, I still was in ways that I didn’t even notice.

So, I put the sword down and started to take another approach. After all, fighting or battling every day is fucking exhausting. Just saying those words brings my energy and vibe down several notches.

Here’s the thing, just because you know how to wield that sword and battle every demon or warrior that comes your way doesn’t mean you HAVE to. It doesn’t mean that has to be what defines you. It doesn’t mean you have to be in that state or operate with that as your desired position or stance to take.

Do you know where true power comes from?
It comes from KNOWING you can fight and then choosing not to because you can SEE past the moment and see the big picture where choosing not to fight is actually what accelerates everything.
It comes from choosing to stand within your own power and take the path of acceptance and learning to work WITH what’s happening, not against it. Continue reading “Put The Sword Down”

Motivation

Motivation

8 years ago I posted this pic as my motivation. I printed it out and hung it in my house. I tried to create it using what I always thought “working out” meant. None of it worked. I stayed skinny, sometimes toned up my already super thin core but other than that, nothing really changed. I still felt weak and sick most of the time then too.

4 years ago I found myself in constant pain and with zero strength. So I turned to yoga. Using yoga I was able to build a solid core and some lean muscle but more importantly, a mindset around taking control of my body. With the help of the guys at our local S2 I started learning more about being a hard gainer and ways I could combat that. It helped but still, this physique in the photo was no where in sight. Continue reading “Motivation”

Constant Game

Constant Game

Sometimes it’s a constant game of calling yourself out. Yep, every time you have a negative thought, or want to ignore a task, or find yourself going down the rabbit hole of fiction after making an assumption.

That work never stops. It’s something you have to actively change, address, and improve on.

Does it get easier? Yes. Continue reading “Constant Game”

The Ripple Effect

The Ripple Effect

How often do you think about the ripple effect?

The ripple effect that comes from every interaction you have throughout your day. The ripple effect of every move, every word, every smile, every internal thought.

The impact that you are making within yourself and the world that surrounds you is way larger than you realize. Continue reading “The Ripple Effect”