Glamorous Life

Oh, the glamorous life of an Entrepreneur…

Everyone wants to be one.

It’s super cool.

You can build a million dollar business in 90 days. Don’t you know? You see the ads, right? That must be real.

Everyone likes to show you the highlight reel. They like to talk about the victories or the things that work.

They like to take pictures with Lambos and Rolexes and tell you about how successful they are.

But what no one tells you is, that isn’t even their car or their watch. And in the very rare occasion that it’s not a rental, I can guarantee you they busted their asses to get it.
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Don’t Forget to Fall in Love with Yourself

Don’t Forget to Fall in Love with Yourself

Don’t forget to fall in love with yourself first.

I wholeheartedly believe that if you want to have any sort of successful or healthy relationship in your life, you MUST love yourself first.

I think this is one of the biggest pieces of the puzzle people are missing.

They seek a relationship to complete them. They seek out another human being to make them feel whole. And what happens? They become dependent on that person in an unhealthy way. A way that typically turns super toxic.

You can’t expect someone else to carry you. Not every day, not every step. Yes, they can help when you’ve fallen down but they are not your personal baggage carrier. They can’t be. It will never work. It will eventually become a burden. They will eventually start to get resentful and there will be tension.

So what happens then? People stay in situations where they feel like they’re suffocating. They get puppies or have babies or get married because they think that is what they are supposed to do and that it will make the situation better. They add another log onto the fire, another stone onto the pile, and someone feels like they’re suffocating.

But they don’t say anything. They keep their mouth shut. They don’t sleep. Or they don’t speak about it. Or they drink so much they don’t have to think about it. Or they work late hours so they don’t have to face it. Or they just push through until one day they break. They scream or explode or cheat or do something reckless.

And when that happens, everyone looks at the “here and now” and try to figure out WHY. What happened at work recently? or what went down last week? But what they fail to see is that this is a domino effect. This has been building up since the beginning. They entered into a relationship on a shaking foundation and built a life on top of something that wasn’t sturdy.

And inevitably, eventually it crumbles around you.

Being as one of my God given super powers is being insanely observant, I’ve witnessed this happen too many times to count. I’ve lived it a time or two in my past before I fully figured it out, but I learned my lesson. Sitting back and watching it happen to other people hurts. It’s upsetting that they won’t listen or don’t realize how important it is to LOVE YOURSELF FIRST.

It’s the foundation you need. You have to be able to count on yourself before you can count on anyone else. We’re all adults here, you can’t expect someone to step in and be your mommy or daddy and expect the relationship to work. That’s not how it goes.

It’s not too late, though. You can start loving yourself right now. You can make yourself a priority without taking away from the people who you are putting all of your time and effort into right now. It sounds ass backwards, I get it. But trust me, spend more time on YOU and you’ll watch everything transform around you. Not only YOUR mood, your feelings, your self talk, your energy levels, but the people around you will start to treat you differently. They will look at your differently. They will respect you. They will care more. They will see that light shining out of you and they will want to be around it because it’s so damn beautiful that they just can’t look away.

Your people, the people who are meant to be around you WILL see that light and will be drawn to it.

Keep doing you. Trust me here. Carve out the time every single day to work on the relationship you have with yourself. It truly is the most important one you’ll ever have and is the absolute foundation of every other relationship in your life (and your business).

You deserve to be loved by yourself. It’s not always easy, but you deserve it and if you start practicing this daily I can promise you that you’ll watch everything in your life improve.

What do you think? Are you in? Are you ready to make a commitment to yourself?

“Don’t forget to fall in love with yourself first”.

Live Life On Purpose

Live Life On Purpose

Do you remember that scene in Sweet Home Alabama where Reese Witherspoon’s character is sitting in the coon dog cemetery and she looks up at Jake and tells him how she loves her life in New York but then she goes back to her home town and that just fits too?

Well that’s how I feel.

That’s how I’ve always felt. Continue reading “Live Life On Purpose”

Quit Trying To Fit Me In A Box

Quit Trying To Fit Me In A Box

Dear Friends, Family, Acquaintances, Everyone: QUIT TRYING TO FIT ME INTO A BOX.

First off, for those of you who support me, THANK YOU. From the bottom of my heart, Thank you for the love, the encouraging words, all of the likes, comments, and shares. It truly means the world to me to have your support. It means the world to me that you take the time to connect with me and see my soul as well as show me yours.

But I’d like to make one thing REALLY clear… I’d still be standing here, doing this very thing even if you didn’t support me at all.

This isn’t about you. It’s about me being ME. FREE to truly and 100% ME.

But there are a few things I have to make clear: Continue reading “Quit Trying To Fit Me In A Box”

My Photo on the Refrigerator

I keep this photo on my refrigerator door so I see it every day.

Not because that’s my goal body like most people would assume. (It’s pre-boob job and pre-squat for the booty so no, trust me it’s not my goal body)

I keep it there as a reminder of when I first got a taste of TRUE FREEDOM.

I’m 18 years old in this picture. Standing on the beach in San Diego.
This was the first time I had traveled alone.
The first time I put my toes in the Pacific Ocean.
The first time I had traveled West at all actually. Continue reading “My Photo on the Refrigerator”

Love What You Do

Love What You Do

Let me tell you a story real quick. This is a conversation I had the other day…

“Jamie, what are you working on right now?”
‘Oh you know, just business stuff’
“Ya, but like what?”
–takes a deep breath– Continue reading “Love What You Do”

Be Honest And Clear

Be Honest And Clear

Almost 3 years ago I moved out of my boyfriend’s house.

After living together for over a year and halfway into our second year together, he dropped a huge bomb on me. Something that would have ended most relationships.

He told me that even though he has said he wanted to have more children, the more he thought about it, he realized that he did not. It was not an option for him.

You see, he is 19 years older than me. He has two grown children and a granddaughter, so it’s understandable that he wouldn’t want any more.

But I was blown away when he said this to me, for many reasons. Continue reading “Be Honest And Clear”