I Know My Worth

I Know My Worth

I know my worth and last year I made a promise to myself that I would no longer allow anyone to be part time (or half-in) in my world. It’s either we’re in it or we’re not.

I’m not a fan of being something that’s only used when it’s convenient.

We don’t do lukewarm over here anymore.

And while I trust myself and honor that choice, it was difficult to implement and enforce at the beginning… until it became one of the most freeing things I’ve ever done. Continue reading “I Know My Worth”

Overspent Energy

Overspent Energy

**Originally Published January 24th, 2020**

I overspent my energy this week.

It doesn’t mean I overbooked or was too “busy” because that is actually a very different thing.

A while back my therapist told me about how she plans her week, which of course being the planner enthusiast that I am, I was all ears for some insight on how someone else does it. One thing that she explained is how she budgets her energy between the different responsibilities she has. Meaning she determined how many clients she was going to see that week/day based on the other obligations or activities she was going to have as well. She wanted to make sure she wasn’t spending all of her allotted energy on work, leaving an empty tank for her family when she got home. Continue reading “Overspent Energy”

Helping People

Helping People

I can’t remember the exact last moment that I realized the frustration I was feeling from this specific instance or recurring question was absolutely a truth and absolutely a result of my own actions (as all results tend to be) but I do remember that it shifted something. The notice that I was getting aggravated by a fact that actually made perfect sense, given the circumstances.

Last week during a mentor session with one of my Coaches, she asked me, “So what are you going to do to create more of what you want this year?”

And the answer was “Talk about how I help people”. Continue reading “Helping People”

Finding Peace

Finding Peace

One of the hardest things to find peace with is knowing that someone you love is passing judgement on you based off false information or a version of you that you’ve evolved past years and years ago.

I seem to find this most with families, extended family to be exact. As much as I see this happen in my clients personal experiences, I see it happen in my own as well.

And it’s one of the saddest things and hardest to digest.

So many grudges held for so long, and for reasons most can’t even remember in the first place. Hard feelings based on assumptions or rumors or one comment that happened in 1995. Continue reading “Finding Peace”

Don’t Assume You Know Shit About Shit

Don’t Assume You Know Shit About Shit

Once upon a time, I made a choice to not talk about my relationship publicly as I was starting to grow my business online and here’s why;

Because I refused to use his name and status in this city as a means to get business.

Yep. I knew that he had hundreds of connections with the business community that could have benefited from my services and expertise and he would have GLADLY made the introductions but I didn’t want to be hired simply because I was “Tony Twist’s Girlfriend”. So, while the fact that we were in a relationship was in no way a secret, I chose not to exploit it because it was very important to me that I built my business and clientele based on MY own reputation and MY own ability. Not to mention that contrary to popular assumptions, I could care less about his hockey history. That’s never been a part of our relationship.

Flash forward 5 years or so and I just heard about someone still claiming that “He funds her life”. Continue reading “Don’t Assume You Know Shit About Shit”

Putting Yourself Out There On Social Media

Putting Yourself Out There On Social Media

Eventually it just becomes your way of being.

For years now I’ve had clients ask me how I share so much online. They tend to feel super overwhelmed by the thought of having to take photos, write posts, and share. It feels like “a lot”… not to mention that it can be scary AF to put yourself out there. Continue reading “Putting Yourself Out There On Social Media”

Ripple Effect

Ripple Effect

“I’m so happy for you! So many good things are happening in your life right now!”

Last week, I was given this message three times in less than two days and honestly, I was a little taken back by it. They were right, things are starting to fall in place for me in all areas and move forward and are super good but why didn’t I see it?

Well, the truth is, I DID, in fact, see it. I can clearly see the spaces where my work continues to pay off. I can clearly see where the Universe is delivering. I can clearly see where my own healing and release allowed space for more joy to come to me. I can clearly feel the difference.

So why was I so shocked when I heard someone point it out to me?

I’ve been pondering on this for a few days and here’s what I believe to be the case; Continue reading “Ripple Effect”

Fridays

Fridays

A long time ago I decided I would never do calls on Fridays. I set Friday aside as a day for me to do whatever I wanted or needed to do. Sometimes that meant a day of fun, sometimes that meant catching up on all the shit that I didn’t get to the rest of the week, and sometimes I used it if someone needs to reschedule and it’s the only time that works.

Either way, it was and still is a catch all day for me and I super enjoy having it that way.

Then about a year ago a long time client of mine signed back up and Friday mornings was the only time that worked for him. So we started the schedule of Friday morning calls.

Yep, broke my own rule on that one… but here is why:

This client and I vibe so freaking well that our calls very rarely drain me. Even if they’re emotional or deep, I still walk away feeling super energized for my day. Maybe its purely the intention I put in, maybe it’s the fact that he’s awesome, or maybe it’s the fact that this guys MAKES SHIT HAPPEN. Over close to 4 years of working together I’ve watched him shift so many things into creating the exact visions he had from the first conversation we ever had. And he just keeps doing the things. Continue reading “Fridays”

What We Should Focus On

What We Should Focus On

“Forget her looks. How about her insane work ethic? Her unstoppable ambition? And her ridiculously dope soul?” Ladies, having a pretty face is just a bonus. Having a body that you feel good about helps and being healthy should be a priority.

But having an honest heart? An open mind? A passionate essence? And a beautifully deep soul?

Those are the things you should be most focused on. They’re a bigger part of the foundation than anything else can you could possibly build.

Want to attract the right people? The ones your soul chooses for you? Start you journey inward. Get quiet and listen to yourself everyday. Start there.

Because what better compliment is there than to be loved for your brain? Or your drive? Or how bright your soul shines?