Category: Be the Change

Finding Peace

Finding Peace

One of the hardest things to find peace with is knowing that someone you love is passing judgement on you based off false information or a version of you that you’ve evolved past years and years ago.

I seem to find this most with families, extended family to be exact. As much as I see this happen in my clients personal experiences, I see it happen in my own as well.

And it’s one of the saddest things and hardest to digest.

So many grudges held for so long, and for reasons most can’t even remember in the first place. Hard feelings based on assumptions or rumors or one comment that happened in 1995. Continue reading “Finding Peace” →

Putting Yourself Out There On Social Media

Putting Yourself Out There On Social Media

Eventually it just becomes your way of being.

For years now I’ve had clients ask me how I share so much online. They tend to feel super overwhelmed by the thought of having to take photos, write posts, and share. It feels like “a lot”… not to mention that it can be scary AF to put yourself out there. Continue reading “Putting Yourself Out There On Social Media” →

Lean In

Lean In

Don’t understand something? Lean in.
Disapprove of someone’s position? Lean in.
Feel defensive? Lean in.
Don’t agree with someone? Lean in.

We have got to quit creating wide opinions on things we’ve not even taking the time to become educated on simply because it’s being delivered by an individual or group that you “disagree” with.

Lean in.
Ask questions.
Do your research. Continue reading “Lean In” →

Solid Foundation

Solid Foundation
This is why you create a solid foundation.
At least it’s a visual reminder as to why.You create a solid foundation so that when life happens and you fall off the track for a bit, everything doesn’t go to shit.

Real talk, my life took a super unexpected and interesting turn over the past 9 months… or year really. I started diving in, DEEP. Unearthing things that I had buried and didn’t acknowledge for years. I cleared so many things mentally and physically it’s almost impossible to even explain. And then I fell in love, listened to a message bigger than me and uprooted my life, moved 600 miles away, created a life there, learned, grew, tried my best, played out some karmic soul contract related shit, learned so many lessons about who I am and how fucking strong I actually am as a human, moved back, and have been hard at work rebuilding every thing I ever knew. Every social contract. Every obligation. Every deeply rooted behavior. Every automatic response. Every way of processing emotions. Every way of existing.I have spent the past 6 months learning new and healthier ways to navigate every single area of my world. Continue reading “Solid Foundation” →

Asking About Someone

Asking About Someone

Before you turn to someone else to ask about a person, think to yourself… have you actually reached out to that individual themselves to ask what you’re wondering about them? Have you asked them for an answer to your question? Have you checked in with them or tried to make plans with them?

Why do people always so quickly assume someone else knows better?

Silence goes both ways. So does contact. Think about that before you assume someone is ignoring you or doesn’t want to be involved in your life anymore. Continue reading “Asking About Someone” →

Behavioral Patterns

Behavioral Patterns

Behavioral patterns will always speak louder than anything you ever have to say.

It’s more than the action being louder than the words… it’s the collection of actions or reactions to the same or similar situations time after time that tell us what we need to know.

It’s not an easy pill to swallow when you’re the only one noticing it. When you find yourself seeing what someone else has yet to recognize or accept, it’s a sign that you’re repeating your own habit of seeing the potential in someone more than you see the reality of what’s in front of you. Continue reading “Behavioral Patterns” →

8 Years Ago

8 Years Ago

This weekend marks 8 years since I finally walked away (Originally written May 25).

Man, sometimes it feels like 15 and other times it feels like it was an entirely different lifetime altogether.

For years I would never admit this part to anyone that wasn’t actually present for the mess that was my life at the moment but I originally left in December. It wasn’t until the end of May that I was finally, finally, really really really left. Like left left. Never turned back. Never had another conversation. And the really interesting part is, I literally have no seen his face or heard his voice since that day.

It’s interesting because for more than half of these past 8 years, we lived ridiculously close to one another. Still in the same town, hell..almost on the same damn street and never once did I run into him or see him somewhere.

If that’s not the universe having my back, I don’t know what is. Continue reading “8 Years Ago” →

Massive Shifts

Massive Shifts

Credit cards paid off. Mindset work to shift your family. Self awareness through consistency. Calmness instead of Chaos… what do these all have in common?

Operation: DO.

When I first started Operation: DO it was a place for me to be able to give more detailed coaching in a group setting. The goal was to be able to help people that weren’t ready or didn’t need private coaching. I share about my life and my experiences. I teach on productivity and time management. And I talk about life. How to make yours easier, less complicated, more intentional, and to design it exactly the way you want it to be.

Continue reading “Massive Shifts” →

You Can Have It All

You Can Have It All

“You can have it all”. Really? Can you really though?

It’s funny, I’ve spent so much time intentionally building this world I live in but still question “Can I really have all of this?”

I mean, I look around at this beautiful home we’ve created, it’s so filled with love, I’m so filled with love and I think about having a strong, healthy body, beautiful skin, being in control of my thoughts and reactions, expanding my mind daily, writing brilliant pieces every day, having amazing relationships with my friends and family, kissing my soul mate before I go to bed every night… AND amazing mermaid hair… AND driving the vehicle of my dreams every day… AND on top of all of that, I get to make money by living on my terms every day and it doesn’t feel hard… WHO THE FUCK DO I THINK I AM TO HAVE ALL OF THIS?

And to want even MORE? Continue reading “You Can Have It All” →

Grace

Grace

Grace. It’s a name I always said I would give my daughter, if I ever have one. But lately it’s become something I’ve been giving myself more regularly and in turn realizing that I have been greatly depriving myself of so much joy and space by not doing so sooner.

I’ve discovered that through giving yourself a little grace you allow yourself to truly feel what you need to feel when you need to feel it. Through grace I’ve discovered that pressuring yourself on a tight deadline every single day is the opposite of what creates the flow and alignment we all so desperately seek.

Through practicing grace I’ve discovered that if we choose to not only honor who we are and what we need but also give ourselves the compassion and space necessary to truly blossom into our greatest potential. Continue reading “Grace” →