We all want someone to be “all about us”, right?

To think we’re great. Watch our stories, read our posts, like our photos, watch our videos, and then talk to us in the background…you know in real life… and actually CARE what is happening in our worlds, in our minds, in our hearts. We want someone to pay attention. We want someone to want to be a part of our world.

And we want them to be up front about it, to tell us that they are into us. To tell us that they think we are marvelous. To never leave us guessing or assuming because they are just so damn clear with us about their feelings and intentions.
That’s basically the idea, right?

But then when we feel that way about someone else…we don’t tell them. We’re not clear. We give mixed signals. We stop liking their posts. We try to wait a certain number of minutes to respond to their messages or watch their story for fear of looking “too eager” or “too interested”.

Please stop and think about that for a minute.

Like really think about it. Do you see what you’re doing there?

You want someone to be all about you and you want them to scream it from the mountain top (or at least tell you about it) but you’re not willing to do the same when you’re all about someone else?

We want it, but we’re too afraid to ask for it.

We want it, but when we see the glimmer of hope that it might actually exist, we freeze.

How does that even make sense?

It’s one thing to KNOW what you want, to write it in your journal every day, make posts about it, and talk to your friends about it… but it’s another thing to ACT on it when you’re given the opportunity to.

I can’t tell you how many conversations I have with friends and clients where I say “well, did you tell him that?” “Does he know you’re interested?” and it’s like I’m speaking Japanese. They look at me mortified that I’m even suggesting that they simply speak up about their intentions first.

But here’s the kicker… That. Takes. Balls.

That is VERY scary. Because what if they think you’re dumb? Or what if they don’t reciprocate? Or what if they hurt you? Or what if …what if…what if.

Truth. There are a million ways that can play out for you. But not all of them are bad. Some of them could end in everything you’ve been screaming to the universe that you want in the first place. So why not take the chance? Why not just say what’s on your mind?

So what if you tell her (or him) that you’re all about them?

What’s the worst that could happen?
You’ll make their day either way, I can promise you that.
You’ll make them smile. You’ll make them feel good.

And even if the feeling isn’t mutual, that action you take by speaking up creates a ripple effect in the universe. And that ripple effect WILL bring that type of love and courage back into your space.

Because like attracts like my friends.

The Universe responds to ACTION.

So if you’re talking about the love you want to attract but then acting the exact opposite in the moment where you actually have to opportunity to seize the day, then what makes you think you’re going to attract this great love in the first place?

You’re not.

Because your actions of hiding, closing the door, and ignoring it are telling the Universe “Just Kidding!”

Instead you’re going to keep attracting half ass people who are only half interested and who aren’t interested in real, raw connection but are still all about playing games…because I hate to break it to you (leans in real close and whispers in your ear) but that is exactly what energy you are putting out there too.

Make sense?

Nothing good comes from your comfort zone. You hear that every day and apply it to your business or your body but not your relationships?

Oh, because that’s scary. Too scary to chance, right?

But what if that one chance could land you everything you ever wanted?

You’ll never know if you don’t try.

Just something to think about.

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