Dear Friends, Family, Acquaintances, Everyone: QUIT TRYING TO FIT ME INTO A BOX.

First off, for those of you who support me, THANK YOU. From the bottom of my heart, Thank you for the love, the encouraging words, all of the likes, comments, and shares. It truly means the world to me to have your support. It means the world to me that you take the time to connect with me and see my soul as well as show me yours.

But I’d like to make one thing REALLY clear… I’d still be standing here, doing this very thing even if you didn’t support me at all.

This isn’t about you. It’s about me being ME. FREE to truly and 100% ME.

But there are a few things I have to make clear:

I CUSS. For those of you who don’t like the “colorful language” I use, I’m sorry if that offends you but I’m a grown ass woman and I choose to speak passionately and if passionately includes some F bombs, then so be it.

But I will not filter my message because you don’t approve of it. I get your messages, I see your comments about the language and quite honestly, you’re wasting your time. I obviously haven’t stopped cursing yet, and I’m not going to. So while I appreciate your love, you can kindly unfollow now.

I’M NOT AN OBJECT. For those of you who can’t seem to watch a snap chat or video without being able to fight the urge to tell me I’m sexy or make some kind of sexual comment about my appearance in the middle of me spouting out some fire on a subject I’m truly passionate about, please hit unfollow now.

I’M NOT YOUR CAM GIRL. For those of you who think that because I have boobs and an ass that it’s acceptable to send me messages on every single social media platform asking to see them or ask me about porn or sending me an unsolicited dick pic, please hit unfollow now.

I AM NOT CHEAP. My level of expertise is high and my ability to help people with it is a valued skill. No it is not cheap. Cheap and easy doesn’t get you results, if it did everyone would have a six pack abs and a million dollars in the bank. You want results, you have to invest time and money.

I’M NOT WHAT YOU THINK. For those of you who like to make assumptions about every single thing I write or say, I ask of you to practice one thing… Not just for me, but for yourself and society as a whole: Learn to pay attention.
Read and comprehend before jumping to conclusions. Ask questions if you don’t know but don’t assume. That’s not helping anyone. If you start practicing paying attention, I promise your whole quality of life will change.

Do you know what you’re actually trying to do to me every time you make one of these comments? Well you’re trying to make me be something I’m not.

You’re trying to conform me into society’s stereotypes:

  • “Hot girls will always show you their tits if you ask.
  • Pretty girls shouldn’t swear.
  • People who swear don’t believe in God.
  • Women are emotional so everything they write is about a boy.
  • Girls that aren’t married by 30 are damaged.
  • Showing cleavage or your stomach makes you a slut.
  • Females can’t run their own REAL businesses.”

Don’t you see that’s what you’re doing? You’re taking these BLUNT and completely ridiculous stereotypes and putting them onto other people without even realizing you’re doing it.

And I’m here to tell you that I will not conform so you need to just STOP.
Don’t waste your time.
Don’t waste your breath or your keystrokes.

I am a walking contradiction and I refuse to tone down any piece of me just because it makes you uncomfortable.

I’m not just your productivity guru.
I’m not just your project manager.
I’m not just the pretty girl who live streams for you.

Try as you might, you will not fit me into a box.
I’ve never been in one before, no matter how hard people have tried. I’ve struggled with this my whole life so I need to make this clear.

I drive a 6 speed. In heels.
I am a damn good manager.
I’ve built several successful businesses.
I’m a self proclaimed makeup artist.
I’m a productivity expert
I am damn good at rock crawling in my Jeep
I’ve had a lot of boyfriends.
I can back a F350 with an 8in lift and 40 inch tires straight every time.
I am the best dog mom in all of the land.
I support the 2nd amendment and carry daily.
I will do anything for someone I love.
I am the mama bear of the group always.
I have fake boobs that I love and worked a second job several years to save up for.
I cry at sappy movies, touching videos, and sometimes songs.
I avoid going to the store because I will get lost in the aisles and buy things I don’t need.
I have legs for days.
I never speak on a topic if I’m not educated on it.
I curse like a sailor
I can tell the sound of a Jake break from miles away.
I pay attention to what gives me goosebumps because I know that means it’s deep and real
I love Harleys.
I paid mindset coaches a lot of money to help me overcome severe money anxiety.
I am obsessed with essential oils.
I prefer to watch crime solving TV shows over going out.
I really like Busch beer.
I love the Kardashians and think they are marketing geniuses.
I’m a survivor of domestic abuse.
I believe in what this country stands for.
I don’t believe in soul mates.
I believe in integrity.
I think men who stick to their word are a dying breed.
I believe in the law of attraction and manifestation.
I’m a lifelong Catholic.
I believe abortion is an individual choice.
I think all humans should have the same rights.
I believe all humans who commit crimes should pay for their wrong doing.
I am kind to everyone I meet.
I love can sing every word to most Hank Williams AND Eminem songs.
I can not stand it when people complain.
I am a skilled accountant, even though I hate it.
I ran the operations of several large automotive companies before starting my current business.
I have a special place in my heart for all military and 1st responders in a big way.
I am a really talented event planner but it stresses me out to the core.
I believe that it is a CHOICE to be a victim of your own circumstances.
I wholeheartedly believe that everyone can create the life they want if they choose to and then commit to that choice.

There are A LOT of contradictions listed above income of my core beliefs and values and that’s just what I could think of off the top of my head.

My point is, why should I try and tone ANY of those things down just because it makes me seem different or not fit into a box or standard?

Why should anyone tone down any part of who they are because it doesn’t fit into the perfect description of a “type”?

I will not play down the fact that I am a powerhouse of information that dominates anything that’s put in front of me just because it makes you feel inadequate.

And you shouldn’t ask me to.

Nor should you do it to yourself. We can all be powerful if we choose to be.

This world needs action takers. Heretics. People who aren’t afraid to be who they really are.
This world needs people who support others for who they ARE authentically.

I challenge you to Be. The. Change.
Or at least get out of my way.

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