About 4 years ago I realized that this was not the way. Busy as a badge of honor is one of the most ass-backwards things you could do.
Here’s the deal. I’m an over-worker by nature. I have to actively keep myself balanced or I will work unnecessarily long hours and everything else in my life will suffer.
I lived on that cycle for most of my life, I get it. You probably don’t know how else to be. Or you hear me talk about living life on your terms, having time for everything you actually need and WANT to do, and replacing the chaos with calm and think.. “Ya, cool story bro. That’s not possible in my life Jamie.”
I get it, you think I couldn’t possibly help you, with everything that’s on your plate, everything you want to accomplish, everything you’re striving for but in some areas keep missing. All of the busy and chaos and hustle grind in your life is super necessary and there is no other way. Ya, so do most of my clients until they finally quit fighting their own lives and choose to take a step in the other direction.
More and more frequently I’ve found myself in conversations with various people from all different walks of life about things they’re noticing make them feel overly drained or zoned out.
One of my friends said “I always feel like I’m more dumb and a zombie after scrolling”.
I went on to explain to her how normal that actually is (these days at least) and how it’s actually a massive exchange of energy that’s happening that we’re really not recognizing, therefore not making different choices OR giving that action the space it deserves without draining the life out of you.
I like them all. Trucks, Jeeps, cars, motorcycles. I like them lifted and/or loud. I like them unique and fun.
When someone asks me what my dream car is, I answer with a list. Ha! (Can you relate?)
I don’t have just one. I’m not good at picking just one favorite of anything really. I like to enjoy too many things for that kind of shit.
Some of my earliest memories are of me standing around a truck or motorcycle with my Dad and his friends. That’s something I’m just comfortable with. It was no surprise to my people that I went into the automotive business and stayed there the way that I did. It just fit. Continue reading “Car Girl”→
It’s been such an interesting ride in building a virtual business these past 6 years. I remember when the thought of working with a coach or subcontractor that I’d never met before felt so foreign, or temporary.
Looking back I realize that due to the way I originally learned that business was “supposed” to be, that is where those beliefs came from.
“Good help is hard to find”
“Finding someone who is reliable is almost impossible”
“Sometimes you just need to find a warm body to fill the chair”
These are all things that I’m sure we’ve all heard a time or two when working in a management position or owning a business. These are things that we believe to be true because, well that’s what everyone says is true. Continue reading “Delegation”→
“You can love her with everything you have and she still won’t belong to you. She will run wild with you, beside you with every step but let me tell you something about women who run with wolves, their fierce hearts don’t settle between walls and their instinct is stronger than upbringing. Love her wild or leave her there.” -Nikki Rowe
I was recently told that photos like this probably “turns other women off” from wanting to work with me or learn from me or join forces with me in any way…
And I get that. Trust me, I do.
But at the same time, that’s the opposite of my purpose for the way I show up. I show up this way, being extremely true to everything I stand for and believe in AND everything thing that I am as a woman and an individual in hopes that people see a light into the opportunity to do the same.
My hope is that it’s seen as power and respected because truly, that is the point.
This topic was brought up to me recently in terms of what I help people build in the form of a solid foundation within themselves and their businesses. And man, was it a cool moment on seeing another layer to this practice.Continue reading “Real Security”→
I was having a conversation with a client yesterday that said “I wish people would realize that investing in a coach doesn’t really cost you $2k a month, it makes you so more than that $2k. So it’s never like you’re ‘losing’ money or out another expense” and while I appreciate that sentiment and that absolute CAN be the case I had to remind her that unfortunately, that’s not always every person’s experience. Continue reading “Show Up and Trust The Process”→
This girl had no idea what the “idea” she was toying with at that time could turn out to be.
Being whisked away to South Beach, staying in fancy hotels, having people wait on us at the beach, buying custom made hand-beaded dresses for fancy events, sitting poolside at one of the most expensive properties in Miami, eating amazing food every second possible.
I remember feeling like it was all surreal. Awesome, but surreal.