Don’t Forget to Fall in Love with Yourself

Don’t Forget to Fall in Love with Yourself

Don’t forget to fall in love with yourself first.

I wholeheartedly believe that if you want to have any sort of successful or healthy relationship in your life, you MUST love yourself first.

I think this is one of the biggest pieces of the puzzle people are missing.

They seek a relationship to complete them. They seek out another human being to make them feel whole. And what happens? They become dependent on that person in an unhealthy way. A way that typically turns super toxic.

You can’t expect someone else to carry you. Not every day, not every step. Yes, they can help when you’ve fallen down but they are not your personal baggage carrier. They can’t be. It will never work. It will eventually become a burden. They will eventually start to get resentful and there will be tension.

So what happens then? People stay in situations where they feel like they’re suffocating. They get puppies or have babies or get married because they think that is what they are supposed to do and that it will make the situation better. They add another log onto the fire, another stone onto the pile, and someone feels like they’re suffocating.

But they don’t say anything. They keep their mouth shut. They don’t sleep. Or they don’t speak about it. Or they drink so much they don’t have to think about it. Or they work late hours so they don’t have to face it. Or they just push through until one day they break. They scream or explode or cheat or do something reckless.

And when that happens, everyone looks at the “here and now” and try to figure out WHY. What happened at work recently? or what went down last week? But what they fail to see is that this is a domino effect. This has been building up since the beginning. They entered into a relationship on a shaking foundation and built a life on top of something that wasn’t sturdy.

And inevitably, eventually it crumbles around you.

Being as one of my God given super powers is being insanely observant, I’ve witnessed this happen too many times to count. I’ve lived it a time or two in my past before I fully figured it out, but I learned my lesson. Sitting back and watching it happen to other people hurts. It’s upsetting that they won’t listen or don’t realize how important it is to LOVE YOURSELF FIRST.

It’s the foundation you need. You have to be able to count on yourself before you can count on anyone else. We’re all adults here, you can’t expect someone to step in and be your mommy or daddy and expect the relationship to work. That’s not how it goes.

It’s not too late, though. You can start loving yourself right now. You can make yourself a priority without taking away from the people who you are putting all of your time and effort into right now. It sounds ass backwards, I get it. But trust me, spend more time on YOU and you’ll watch everything transform around you. Not only YOUR mood, your feelings, your self talk, your energy levels, but the people around you will start to treat you differently. They will look at your differently. They will respect you. They will care more. They will see that light shining out of you and they will want to be around it because it’s so damn beautiful that they just can’t look away.

Your people, the people who are meant to be around you WILL see that light and will be drawn to it.

Keep doing you. Trust me here. Carve out the time every single day to work on the relationship you have with yourself. It truly is the most important one you’ll ever have and is the absolute foundation of every other relationship in your life (and your business).

You deserve to be loved by yourself. It’s not always easy, but you deserve it and if you start practicing this daily I can promise you that you’ll watch everything in your life improve.

What do you think? Are you in? Are you ready to make a commitment to yourself?

“Don’t forget to fall in love with yourself first”.

My Response to Every Situation

My Response to Every Situation

“My Response to every situation is “it’s all good” because even if it isn’t, I’m going to make sure it will be.
I saw this quote on a post this morning and screamed “YES!”
Because it’s true. I’m confident in that statement because I’ve seen me do it.
I have a long list of proof that I am completely capable of making sure that things work out. Tons of evidence that I will always handle my business and make things happen.
So that is why I rarely get worked up anymore. I look at the challenge, the bump in the road and think “Okay universe, I see you. Now let’s get to the solution” and that’s what I do. Adjust where I need to adjust, roll with the punches, and keep pushing through.
But here is the common misconception around this statement “It’s all good”… I say that and people think I just don’t care. Or I’m not concerned. Or I don’t worry about the outcome. Or that I’m so caught up in my own stuff that I don’t see reality.
And you couldn’t be more wrong. Continue reading “My Response to Every Situation”

Multiple choice

Multiple choice

“The 10 commandments aren’t multiple choice”.

I was driving down the street a couple days ago and saw that written on a sign in front of a church.

I immediately thought, “That goes the same for Core 4”.

It’s not a multiple choice question.

You don’t get to just pick one and only focus on it and think that life is going to be peachy.

You don’t get to master one and then move to the next, no longer working on the first one and think that everything is going to still flow.

That’s not how it works.

They all fit together.

They all feed off each other. Continue reading “Multiple choice”

Born to Fly

Born to Fly

How do you keep your feet on the ground when you KNOW YOU WERE BORN TO FLY?

Well, you try for years. You try to stay grounded and do what’s expected of you. You get the job. You get the house. You date the guy. You get the car.

And then you slip. You just can’t take it anymore and you slip.

You rebel.

You throw them all off.

You take the unbeaten path. Continue reading “Born to Fly”

Live Life On Purpose

Live Life On Purpose

Do you remember that scene in Sweet Home Alabama where Reese Witherspoon’s character is sitting in the coon dog cemetery and she looks up at Jake and tells him how she loves her life in New York but then she goes back to her home town and that just fits too?

Well that’s how I feel.

That’s how I’ve always felt. Continue reading “Live Life On Purpose”

Being an Entrepreneur is Hard Work

Being an Entrepreneur is Hard Work

Here’s the truth: This is HARD.

Not hard like “ooo adulting is hard” bullshit bitching about how you have to wash your own clothes or cook your own food. I’m talking about real shit.

Being an entrepreneur is fucking hard.

I’m talking hard like I have to pay all of my bills, and then pay the business expenses, and then pay my team so they can pay their bills,
then my run my clients teams so they can pay their bills, then pay me,and pay their own teams. Peoples lively-hood being my responsibility kind of hard. Continue reading “Being an Entrepreneur is Hard Work”



We have these things we “dream” about. Things that go through our head from time to time over the years (OR maybe things we think about much more often than we will ever admit) but we don’t allow ourselves to actually stop and think that they MIGHT actually be possible.

Recently, one of those images that’s been bouncing around in my head came to life.

It literally played out EXACTLY how I had imagined it. It almost seems surreal that it happened and is already over!

But I can promise you something, this is the first of many. Continue reading “Dream”